Bit more of a serious topic today, but one that I feel is relevant anyways.
Last week I was encouraged by an old mate in America to have a conversation with my kids about racism and about how they perceive someone who might look a little different to them.
I’d always figured that while we’ve never had a direct conversation about race with my kids from my memory, we’d always focused on just saying it doesn’t matter what people look like, so long as they are nice people.
So I guess indirectly we had in some way at least.
And from my observation in watching my girls through their different stages, first at daycare, then now at school, that it was enough.
I always saw kids of all different colours and races playing together and just figured it was good cause at that age kids just want to play with people and didn’t care what someone looked like.
One of the advantages I guess of living in a multi cultural suburb.
But obviously him and I have had different life experiences – him through no fault of his own because of what colour he was born, so I thought it was worthwhile after his encouragement.
His basic advice was at least you can get confirmation that your kids are on the right track, and they know what direction their parents own moral compass points.
So it made me proud to have that chat and hear their answers.
Obviously Emily who’s 6 had a greater understanding and answer that she didn’t care that some of her friends looked a bit different.
She was more impressed with them being able to talk in a different language and that they were kind.
Jade at 2 just wanted to play with people who were nice to her.
Hearing my mates experiences growing up made me realise even more that
I never had to worry about some of the things he did.
And I think all of it just comes back down to what I’ve always said is, or should be “Human 101” – don’t be a prick.
Some people obviously need to be taught this now as they missed that lesson as a kid.
Obviously we have our own problems in this country so we’re not totally without blame,
but hopefully by people like you and me having that conversation with our kids it’ll be something their kids won’t have to worry about down the track.
I don’t pretend to have all the answers but this one is obvious to me.
Serious topic and obviously above my pay grade on a lot of levels, but that’s my 2 cents worth anyways,
and as the old saying goes – doing nothing is the easy choice – in the short term at least.
Although the easy choice should be to speak to our kids to at least, as my old mate said, to confirm that they see the world and others in the right way.
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